goals settings a breeze when...
When your personal values are intact, goals settings
really a breeze!
Do you ever wonder what the ingredients are for a
successful goals settings recipe? Well, there are
The goal setting process is not dis-similar to that
of preparing a delicious or exoctic meal. Just as
you would focus your attention on the essential
ingredients that make up the recipe; the different
stages of preparation; and the successful end result,
so too with your goalsetting.
Today we are going to look at a key, prequisite
ingredient that is important, in determining the
quality and level of success and achievement of your
health goal or goals. That is, your personal values.
Why are your personal values so crucial?
Goals settings a process with stages. Each stage must
be worked through with care and attention being given to
you and to what it is you really want.
When you approach your goalsetting in this way, you move forward
with greater clarity. Dilute or skimp on your approach
to any of these stages and you jeopardise your goals
The earliest stage of goals setting's having a healthy
awareness of your personal values.
Just think of your goalsetting as a recipe - the end result
being a satisfying, rewarding and successful meal. The
ingredients all play a part in contributing to your
Miss out any one of the important ingredients and your
result is limited. You may think that missing out one
ingredient will not make much of a difference to the
But let's say that, unknown to you, the one you missed out was very important to the look, taste, texture or even the appearance of the meal.
You may well have a palatable meal, however, that's about
it - palatable; not the personal goal you set out to attain. How does that make you feel? Do you jump with glee? Or are
you left feeling somewhat disappointed with the outcome?
Perhaps you tell yourself that 'you knew you would get it
wrong anyway'. What does telling yourself this, do to
your motivation and self esteem? You guessed it!
Your action determines your goals settings outcome, as sure
as your values determines your actions. Confused?
Let me explain.
Why might you want to skip an important ingredient in your goal settings?
A number of reasons might account for your diluting or
even jeopardizing your goals settings exercise.
A very basic for instance is, you don't have one of the ingredients for your recipe and you can't be bothered to pop out and get it. So you tell yourself it shouldn't make that much of a difference to your goalsetting outcome.
A second reason might be, that you're not clear about your
values or you might not have prioritised them. Lets say
that one of the ingredients in your recipe happens to be cheese -
which your partner or significant other has told you not to eat
because you're getting 'fat'. So, you've been avoiding cheese
for that reason.
While omission of this key ingredient - cheese, relates to
a personal value, guess what? That value doesn't belong
to you, it belongs to someone else - i.e, your partner.
This effectively means you will be working toward a set
goal that is founded on a personal value belonging to your
partner; who happens to not value you being 'fat',
(whether or not this is the case).
Your efforts in effect, are being directed into a goal-setting outcome for someone else as oppose to being directed into to what you want.
So, not only are you not clear about one of your own personal values, you have not given it any priority. And since you might not even perceive yourself as being 'fat' - How come you left the cheese out?
Being clear about your own values will put you in a strong
position of being able to prioritise them in the goals
settings process. Your goals settings success is assured
when you have clarity as to what it is you want and your
true motivation for wanting it.
You will find the Health Womens Wheel an
invaluable tool in assessing where you are now in your four
health areas - i.e. physical health, food nutrition, mental
health, health and beauty fitness.
Everything in life that you consider precious and dear to
you, springs from your personal value system. For example,
your sense of honesty, decency, of what is right or wrong,
what is good and what is not so good.
How clear are you now about your own values as regard
your goals settings? If you're finding it difficult
to make decisions or you're hesitant as to which areas
of your health need prioritising, you might want to
consider the probability that you are either in conflict
over your values or that there is a lack of clarity as to
what your values really are.
Use the prioritising your values form, to help you get that clarity.
And remember, should you find yourself valuing your beauty
health over your mental health for example, ask yourself this:
'Is this value truly my own or is it that of a partner, parent or friend - which over time I have come to believe, to be my own?
Since your goal is an intrinsic part of your values,
your goals settings and achievement outcome will be
determined by your level of self-awareness of your values
and your ability to prioritise them accordingly.
Once you have accomplished this stage of the goals settings
process, pop over to how to write goal thats achievable.
You will find also find the section on
personal goal setting
a very useful read. Once finished there, you
will find this goal illustration a real gift. You'll then be well on your way with your recipe for success. And remember...
"Your belief determines your
action and your action determines your results but first you
have to believe". (Mark Victor Hansen)
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